Selecting the members of your wedding party is a meaningful and sometimes arduous task. These individuals will be by your side both figuratively and literally, providing their support and sharing in the joy of your special day.
In this guide, we are going to discuss who you should ask to be in your wedding party and look at potential challenges this may present (such as differing party sizes and uneven friend counts).
So, pour yourself a glass of wine and let’s talk about who really matters to you!
Consider the Closest Relationships
Start by identifying those who hold a special place in your heart. Your wedding party should consist of people you have a deep connection with and who have played a significant role in your life. Consider close friends, siblings, and family members who have been there for you through thick and thin.
Finding Balance
While it isn’t necessary to have an equal number of bridesmaids and groomsmen, strive for balance if possible. This will keep things visually pleasing (especially for those of us who are highly OCD) during the ceremony and in photographs. That being said, the most crucial factor is selecting individuals who truly matter to you, even if it results in an uneven party size.
Open Communication
Discuss your preferences and expectations with your partner early in the planning process. Be open about the number of people you envision having in your wedding party and ensure you’re on the same page. This will help avoid any potential misunderstandings or conflicts later on.
Party Size Preferences
If one of you envisions a larger wedding party while the other prefers a more intimate group, find a compromise that satisfies both perspectives. (We have a blog post dedicated to this very topic.) Consider factors such as the size of the venue, your budget, and the overall vibe you want for your wedding. Quality always surpasses quantity, so focus on the relationships that matter most to you.
Including Siblings and Family
If one side has more close friends than the other, consider including siblings or family members to balance the numbers. Siblings often play dual roles as family and friends, creating a special dynamic within the wedding party.
Mixed-Gender Wedding Parties
Break away from traditional norms and embrace mixed-gender wedding parties. There’s no rule stating that bridesmaids must be women and groomsmen must be men. Choose individuals based on their significance in your life rather than adhering to traditional gender roles.
Special Roles
If someone important to you can’t be a bridesmaid or groomsman (whatever the reason may be), consider assigning them a special role in the wedding, such as a reader, usher, or even the master of ceremonies.
Choosing your bridal party is a personal and significant decision. It is about surrounding yourself with the people who bring joy to your life and who always have your back. By communicating openly with your partner and making decisions based on the relationships that matter to you most, you will be surrounded on your wedding day with love, support, and peace of mind.
Remember, the Bella Vie Team is here for you for every need you have, including those you haven’t thought of yet!
Helping you determine who you should ask to be by your side at the altar is just the beginning of the many things we can do for you.
Always, always feel free to reach out to us for tips and advice, no strings attached! We will be happy to point you in the right direction.
Until next time,
Ciao, Bellas!
